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Say, “Here’s what I intended, what happened, and what I’ll change next time,” then ask, “Anything you’d add?” This preempts blame and models ownership. Another line: “I’m writing a brief postmortem; please send two questions I should answer.” Documenting lessons converts pain into assets for the team, paying down learning debt. The tone matters—honest, forward-looking, and concise. Over time, this approach creates a culture where errors fuel progress rather than erode confidence or trust.
Instead of, “Will you mentor me?” try, “Could we do a twenty-minute call next week focused on stakeholder mapping for my proposal? I’ll send context and questions.” This respects time and clarifies value. End with, “If not you, is there someone you recommend?” keeping momentum. Afterward, share a thank-you and the action you took. Mentorship grows from repeated, specific interactions, not grand declarations. Micro-requests make those moments frequent, purposeful, and easier for busy leaders to accept.
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